Negative self-talk is a known issue among adults. However, the events that lead to negative self-talk often start at an early age. Children struggle to understand that things that happen to them aren’t necessarily their fault. Any mistake or difficult situation can feel like the end of the world. Like adults, children are also surrounded by media that makes it feel like others are perfect and they’re the flawed ones, like curated social media posts and airbrushed magazine photos. Here’s how you can help your child be kinder to themselves.
Make Them Aware
More often than not, children engage in negative self-talk without even realizing it. They may start with self-deprecating comments to make others laugh. In some cases, they might repeat comments they hear from their peers or the adults in their lives. When your child says something mean about themselves, point it out. Help them understand that engaging in this kind of self-talk can make these thoughts feel true, even if they’re not.
Talk About It
Your child may believe that self-deprecating “jokes” are harmless. The harm that negative self-talk causes might not be clear until your child has already missed opportunities or become overwhelmed with stress. Have a serious conversation with your child about the ways that negative self-talk can impact both your child and the people around them. Switching to positive self-talk can make a difference. Explain that positive self-talk doesn’t necessarily mean bragging but recognizing the good in themselves.
Recognize Their Strengths
We are often our own worst critics, and it can be difficult to see our own strengths. When your child does something that makes you proud, tell them. Help them understand what makes them unique. Everyone has strengths, and by recognizing your child’s strengths out loud, you can help them see strength in themselves. It’s easier to speak positively about yourself when you know what there is to like about you.
Model Positive Self-Talk
For some, this may be the most difficult step: talk positively about yourself. Your child will see your confidence and want to become more confident themselves. Saying nice things about yourself as well as your child will help them see that positivity, just like negativity, can be contagious.
At St. Charles Borromeo, we encourage our students to be just as kind to themselves as they are to each other. Our Orlando private school located in the Diocese of Orlando is more than a place to learn; it’s a diverse community. Our staff is committed to proclaiming the Gospel Message of Jesus Christ. We believe in teaching the whole child and want students to love learning, helping them grow into well-rounded, contributing members of society. Learn more about us by contacting us here.
